Interesting and good to know, thank you for the info! I haven’t run into that issue with synapse yet, but I’m also running it in a docker container on an enterprise server. I also don’t currently have any chat rooms with more than 5 or so users, and I imagine that is also a factor.
How does this differ from something like synapse?
The simplest answer is no. Making fun of someone because of neurodivergence is the action of a bully, not someone who is nervous and unsure of how to express their attraction.
I’m not in your shoes, and I only have a limited view into the situation. As an outside observer, I would recommend at the very least establishing boundaries against screaming and belittling your neurodivergence (i.e. Saying plainly that behavior is not OK), or cutting off all contact entirely if possible.
Things will likely only further degrade otherwise, and his behavior will only continue to be hurtful and manipulative.
It sounds like Karl still has a lot of internal struggles and identity issues. I would recommend not getting too close to him until he can work through those things, especially in light of what it sounds like is rather poor treatment towards you.
You deserve someone who unambiguously cares for you and treats you well. He likely doesn’t even know how he feels about you, but because he is comfortable with you, feels like he can safely use you as his punching bag while he works through his internal emotions.
If he’s able to put in the work and overcome his struggles, he won’t make you feel like garbage and it will be infinitely easier to ask if he has romantic feelings towards you. If he continues to act like a jerk, or flip flop between friendly and hostile, there are far too many people in this world that are more worthy of your time and energy.
Sorry for the late reply. The optiplex is absolutely sold as a desktop, but I’ve been using it as a server for a couple of years. Very small, quiet, and it sips power, but it only has support for 2 2.5" SATA drives (though it does have plenty of USB 3 ports if you don’t mind using external storage). TrueNAS installed on it would be similar to your Synology setup (without the vendor lock in), though not nearly as convenient as the front bays you’re used to.
It’s yours if you want it, but no worries otherwise.
That would be awesome. I have a Dell Optiplex 7040 Micro that might be better suited for your needs after you play around with the big server. Maybe we could trade?
Depending on where you’re located I would happily pay for shipping.
If you don’t want it, I’ll take it off your hands. I have a rack designed for that kind of hardware and all of the infrastructure to fully support it.
I use LinuSystemWaylanKDEdDx btw