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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • This. It can be exhausting. I feel compelled to reassure the person that I’m not upset or whatever. It makes a big deal out of something i’d rather not be expending any social energy on.

    Here’s an exaggerated analogy of what is like: imagine that every time you sneezed someone came over all concerned, like 'are your alright? are you sure? do you need a doctor? ’ and you had to explain that it was no big deal and that you were ok.

    It also reminds me a little of people who cut themselves down, making you fell like you need to tell them, ‘oh no, you’re not ugly / stupid / a jerk’ or whatever.