I think that if you avoid giving personal information / interaction , there is no big deal they have your IP and name . Any big entity can get that easily if you are targeted. The issue is the information you give to them and being part of the big data processing. I don’t want them making money from my own data, also it’s better for the future of things with AI if it has less information to profile you. in the future it will be normal that profiling is a service to sell so you or your family would be tagged and have issues to get a job when they look at you. Or even gubernamental stuff like getting a citizenship or traveling to other countries.
Tailacale sucks as tradicional vnp, the derp are a mess and they have a lot of latency and is very slow. Even achieving a point to point connection, the back end makes the performance horrible. I heard headache is far better, but never tried it, it’s a little messy with setup and certs.