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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Yeah, you definitely need to see a doctor.

    I’m assuming the er doc was giving you the easier to understand numbers, but a “7” would still be a good bit higher than you’d expect to see in someone with no damage to the heart muscle unless there’s something else weird going on.

    Nobody online can tell you what’s going on, obviously, but I would consider this an urgent matter. It isn’t absolutely a heart issue, but none of the things that can cause elevated troponin are beneficial. With a normal EKG, you weren’t having an immediate issue, but I would definitely be calling your GP now to get the ball rolling. Most of the things that would have your troponin levels to be at that range are very treatable, as in after treatment, the problem is resolved and only needs monitoring over time. The rest are still treatable, but may need more than monitoring.

    So don’t fuck around about it, but also don’t panic.

    With the ER doc not being overly concerned after two tests (which is the norm; changes in levels matter a good bit), it isn’t something where you have to see your doctor now, as in go and camp out in the office until you’re seen. But I would say to request the earliest possible appointment because they probably will refer you to a cardiologist, and the sooner you get the referral, the sooner you’re seen by one.

    Again, don’t panic, your health isn’t ideal, but since it’s confirmed you didn’t have a heart attack, chances are really good that with treatment and lifestyle changes, you’re going to be fine long term.


  • Oh no, the things I like aren’t in pop culture currently! That must mean other people suck, rather than just being that trends shift constantly.

    I hate to say this, but grow up. Whatever you think of your favorites, nobody else is obliged to think the same, and them not liking has nothing to do with them being dreamers or not. The whole concept is absurd in the first place, and people have been saying the same thing about whatever is currently popular instead of what was popular when they were young since the beginning of recorded music. I suspect something similar was in place before then too.

    Besides, you picked one band that’s still hugely influential and popular. The other one, Crimson, less so, but still a fairly influential band in the right circles.

    But, I notice you didn’t harken back to the jazz era, or classical. Why didn’t whatever your generation is show how great a bunch of dreamers they were/are by digging back into that? Or into the blues mosaic that led to rock, which led to prog rock? There’s a whole lot of dreamers you skipped in your listing.

    Hell, you entirely ignored folk music as it existed before recording, which was and is the heart of democratized music performed by small groups rather than big orchestras or solely for the enjoyment of the wealthy.

    Which is ignoring that you assume wrongly that more modern forms of music have some kind of hole in them where no insight exists. Which is outright blind and deaf. You think hip-hop doesn’t give insight into the human condition? Especially when it’s addressing systemic injustice and the state of society’s denigration of people of color?

    Nah, dude, this post, your hot take on music? It points to you lacking insight, to you lack imagination and thought beyond whatever it is that gets your jollies.




  • Well, it reads as just silly kid stuff. Kids do dumb shit because they’re kids.

    The important part is whether or not it was traumatic to you, not whether it was sexual, or abuse, or sexual abuse.

    It doesn’t seem like it did. It seems more like it was just weird and that was that, and that you’re looking back on it as something more than it was then. This isn’t to minimize your experiences, it’s just saying that your phrasing and the question itself point towards it not being traumatic at the time.

    Was it inappropriate? Yeah, but it’s very likely nothing bad was meant by it. Even if it was sexual on his end, that doesn’t mean he was intentionally breaking consent in a conscious way, or that kids making mistakes like that is inherently a bad thing overall. Something can be inappropriate, but not wrong because if someone lacks the capacity to understand that it’s wrong, it just isn’t the same thing as when they do, and choose to perform a hurtful act.

    Me? I think I’d just let it go and not worry about it if possible. If it isn’t possible, then it might mean there’s issues with it that need resolution with external help, so the attempt to do so kinda serves as a self diagnosis. If you’re able to easily put it aside, then it wasn’t traumatic (or not enough to matter).

    It may help you to know that that kind of thing is super common. Over on reddit, there was a sub called morbid questions, and I couldn’t begin to tell you how often people would ask what you’re asking, with the same or similar circumstances. Kids get dumb ideas, and lack the inhibition to not act on it. Kids can engage in sexual abuse, yes, but there is a difference between that and just doing something rude like slapping an ass. It’s about intent, extent, and situation.

    It may also help to know that, even if your friend did intend it as a sexual act, and did so knowing that it wasn’t acceptable behavior, that you aren’t obligated to feel any specific way about it. You don’t have to feel the same as someone else might; you don’t have to be okay with it because someone else is, you don’t have to be upset because someone else is. Your experience is yours.














  • Well, back in the day, a doughnut cost a lot less than a donut.

    So, betting dollars against donuts would be a bad idea.

    Not that it was ever a betting term, it just condone contains a reference to betting.

    It’s like saying “hey, lets get dinner. You give me a twig for every dollar I put in.”

    You’re either exchanging something of unequal value, or making an “investment” where you get very little return on it.


  • Maybe? My family is from the southern Appalachians, but we’ve spread all over.

    One ancestor married and had kids with a polish lady, and moved to Pennsylvania. So, that branch tended to marry with other polish descended people more often than not. Their accent is different from people I’ve known from Pennsylvania, which includes some of my wife’s family.

    So I tend to believe that the polish american accent does exist. Thing is, I don’t know enough about Chicago’s history to even start to pick away at their accents and how they came about. But I would still say that if there’s been a significant Polish population there, it’s almost certain that there is one